She wanted to make this personal, and I don’t have too much of an issue with that, but feel once again I need to use this forum to respond to personal attacks and lies. To the people who have sent me supportive messages thank you. It’s got to the point where I’ve installed an alarm system.
She feels she has the moral high ground, personally I feel that bringing her kids into this and using them against me and spinning a story full of lies about what went on kinda looses that high ground in a very big way.
A little while ago I received a comment to this site from the fat ugly troll that in part said “and physically abuse 10 year olds”. This is not the first time I’ve brought this up, but after what’s been said about me today I feel a further response is due as once again this accusation has been forwarded to me.
First, I’ve never lived with the young lady who claims I hurt her when she was 10, this could only have come from my ex as the kids 10th birthday was months after I left (and let me be clear here, I left and I filed the court documents). My first point is that as a mother she is willing to bring her daughters into this and use them against me.
This is the same mother that when the incident happened was clear that it did not happen, the father was clear it did not happen and the woman who looked after them during the day was clear it did not happen. Yet some time later when it suits the story about how big a shit I am (remember, I left and I filed with the courts) she drags out the story of me abusing he daughter and feels it’s OK to share with her so called “friends” at that time.
At the time I stated that I wanted it investigated by CPS, but she said no, that was not required and I have an e-mail that states that very clearly. Interestingly the same child had made accusations against her father prior to her previous divorce, CPS investigated and he was cleared. Again, I have the details of that if anyone is interested.
She knew this was my biggest issue around the whole parenting thing. I find it strange how it comes up now, rather than her dealing with it at the time. I would like to note that the accusation did not directly come from her, but clearly it came from her.
This child had some issues around anger management and acting out. In her bedroom there are multiple holes in the wall that she kicked or slammed door handles through the wall. The holes were generally hidden behind the door and who knows when they happened.
Since the accusation was leveled against me her behaviors escalated. Bicycle tires were slashed with a box cutter that I had in my tool box, both mine and her sisters. Yet my ex’s bike never got touched…
Car paint got badly scratched. An attempt, thankfully unsuccessful, was made at my car tire. There was two clear cut marks where someone tried to piece the tire carcass with the same box cutter. They were clearly recent and had she actually cut through then she could have been badly injured. She agreed that they were from the box cutter.
At one time some rather substantial damage was found in the kitchen. Someone, and my ex, like I did, assumed it was this daughter, took a large metal holder and broke a couple of tiles and cabinet fronts in the kitchen.
The list was substantial and went on. Electronics, lap top computers, walls in her sisters bedroom and so on. For me the final straw was a screwdriver blade being stuck through the soft top of my convertible. I was away in London at the time, I came back and there was the damage.
The escalation and methodical, planned nature of the damage was disturbing.
Another part of this that my ex has really spun her own version of events I around the girl going to live with her father for a while. It got to the point where we installed a number of door locks to keep her out of rooms. Again this was first suggested by her, a point she has conveniently left out in the past.
Something else that is rather important, but again was mysteriously forgotten when she was sharing the story with “friends” was that my ex first suggested her daughter go live with her dad, I said no. I did not feel I could work on that relationship if the kid was not with us. It was only after further damage that I agreed.
The next part of this, and again this an important addition to the story, is I had no idea it was to be permanent. The first time I knew that was two days later is when I called my ex and she told me she was just leaving a meeting with the kids new teacher. The moving of school and the permanence of the stay at her fathers had never been discussed with me. The first time I heard it was even on the table was after it had happened.
There are other points that are very, very relevant to the story and omissions that have been spun around this subject. I’ve been accused publicly by one of her friends of abusing her child, yet at no point has she felt the need to contact CPS, even though as someone who holds a teaching license in Washington she a mandatory reporter.
I’ve addressed this before, yet the story keeps on being repeated. Once again I stand by every word I’ve written here.
